We continue to deal with the issue of the mean girls. Miss M comes home from school and will tell me about how Anna teases her, or refuses to play with her, or tries to get other girls to be friends with her and not Miss M. Anna is all of five years old. And as much as I've wondered what causes such a small child to be so. . .well, mean, I've mostly moved on to trying to teach my child to be resilient.
But how, exactly, does one teach a four year old to rise above it? How do you explain that some people just have their own stuff going on that has nothing to do with you? How do you counsel that you must show compassion even in the face of unkindness, because you never really know what is going on with that other person? To just let it go, and focus your attention elsewhere?
I don't know how to answer her abstract questions about why people in this world can be so unkind. But, in this age of ISIS and Ukraine and Israel/Palestine, it seems more important than ever that she learn how to live alongside others without hatred, without anger, and without striking back.