Saturday, April 24, 2010

Any Suggestions?

I just drafted a long, ranting post about something that happened today. It was incredibly cathartic to write it, but it needed to be erased. Yet, I still have no idea how to handle the situation.

Here it is in a nutshell: I ended up in a heated discussion with someone today. During the conversation, I was pushed to my limits, and therefore spoke the unvarnished truth about a third person, which deeply offended the person I was speaking with.

I feel like the other person involved in the conversation does not respect me or my decisions, and has generally been rather unsupportive of our little family in recent months. I am angry with this person, because of this. The truth-speaking probably would not have occurred but for the fact that things have been bubbling under the surface for months.

The person called me back and left me a voicemail asking me to return the call. From talking to a third party, I know that this person claims that they were "joking" during some of the parts of the conversation I found most offensive (I don't think this is true), and that I responded inappropriately by saying what I did (although what I said was 100 percent true, and this person knows that). I didn't call back yet.

I'm not sure how to handle this. I find the person impossible to talk to when there is a difference of opinion, because it's like talking to a wall. I am wrong, this person is right, the end. Oh, and it's a family member, so I can't just avoid the situation forever, which is what I'd really like to do.

This has made me really tired. Off to bed I go, but if you have a great way for me to smooth this ugliness over, I'd love to hear it.

2 comments:

Eva said...

Well, if it was the truth - why not try to keep the discussion around that. Not if it is appropriate to say or if somebody might be offended by your opinion about this third person. Maybe retrace as far as calling it a "personal" truth - still it is your opinion. Even if it is hard on the relationship with the person you have been arguing with. It often pays off to be honest about one's positions in the long run.

Heather said...

I don't have much to say other than to stick to facts and how you feel. I only end up with issues like this with my family and we've been keeping it light to avoid confrontations